Teens and their behaviour...

O.k. so I had every intention of doing the windows yesterday, but got caught up in what my son and I had talked about the night before. It seems that I (and his father) have created somewhat of a teen monster. Since I didn't have the kind of fruit he wanted for his lunch I am not a responsible mother. What? OH NO YOU DIENT! I've always hated arguing with people, anyone, but when it comes to my family, I hate it even more. So, on my mind was that behaviour deally and just the way the whole attitude thang has been steadily gettting worse.

I have a few friends that have kids (teens), and they tell me that I am not alone. Our generation, the baby boomers at the far end of the number line, are actually doing our kids an injustice. We want them to have everything we didn't have. I know that isn't a new problem, just hear me out. What we have done, since we didn't have it, is give them too much. We drive them everywhere, so they are not late, we know where they are, etc... We pick them up; we make sure all of their "needs" are met. But, what I forgot about is the kicker here, they want to tell us what else we can do for them. OH NO YOU DIENT! So, I bust my ass to provide all that I can, give up the master bedroom so my child can have the "space". I go without new clothes, so he can have new stuff. I trick out his whatever and leave mine blank... you catch my drift, and whammo!

So, I am not doing it anymore. Not quite cold turkey, but I am working on doing less, much less. Today I told my teen that he needs to be thinking long and hard about Driver's Training Courses. I was a bit ambivalent about him driving for years and then it hit me, how is he going to get over this Mom will do it thang unless I stop? Our kids don't even want to drive! It's so much nicer for Mom and Dad to do everything for me. NOT! It ain't happening here.

I know that driving a car is a huge responsibility. Yes, you guys I know that. My child will have to show me that he is ready before I will let him drive away in the car I will have to buy for him. My point is that he will have to. I am going to have to cut him off. I will have to say no. GASP! I will have to say no. Or, if he doesn't want to learn to drive or doesn't want to show me his is responsible, then like a friend just told me the other day, "He is in college and he will be riding his bike."